Choosing the Right Parents

By Kathleen Warschefsky | Published July 19, 2010

How will I know if I am choosing the right adoptive parents for my baby?

Choosing who will be the parents of your child is an enormous decision for most birthmothers. The IAC has all kinds of families that have gone through extensive screening who are now waiting to adopt. When you begin to make an adoption plan, one of the first steps will be looking at all of the families that fit you and your baby’s profile. You may also have some ideas about what types of adoptive parents you are interested in. Your intake counselor will help you narrow down your top choices and you will have the opportunity to talk with and meet these families before you decide. Many birthmothers say that they just “know” when they meet the right family for their baby. This may be based on common interests, where they live, whether they have other children or not, the way that they look, or just their personality. Often it is a combination of many of these things and more! You can take as much time as you need to make this decision, and we will be there for you to listen to your feelings and talk you through the process.

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    Chances are that as you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and some life-altering decisions, you may also be facing a little bit of loneliness. Quite possibly you may be facing a lot of loneliness. Add in the constant flux of hormones and you may find yourself feeling as though you’re the only person in the world going through any of this craziness.

    If you are a teenager or a woman in your early twenties, you may have found that your pregnancy announcement was not met with balloons, flowers or cards by your closest of friends. Some of them may have told you congratulations (though none of mine did) and been excited at the prospect of a baby. However, as your belly begins to grow and you deal with things like morning sickness, doctor’s visits and swollen ankles, your friends may slowly begin to disappear. While your worries are a long list of difficult decisions like who will parent this baby, how you will find a job and whether or not you want a natural birth, your friends may be busy still discussing things like the latest party, newest trend or who-likes-who. Even the best of friendships take a hit when you have nothing to relate to, feeling that the other person simply can’t understand what you’re dealing with at any given time.

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    Everything in life is not in “black” or “white.” From children, we have been taught to look at so many aspects of life as definitives, when in fact, things aren’t always that simple or clear cut. We are fortunate to live in a country where people are not forced to limit the number of children to one or none. We have a great amount of freedom and liberties that we enjoy in America. We live in a country where not only is everything not simply in terms of “black” or “white,” the people that live here are a testament to our country’s great diversity, opportunities, and options.

    The same holds true with regard to pregnancy. For far too long, we have been made to feel that there are only two options for women when they become pregnant…that they can only have one of two views. Either your perspective is Pro-life or Pro-choice…that’s it. Pick a side and stick with it. But, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

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    [...] issues a pregnant woman faces while she considers placing her baby for adoption. The site features prospective adoptive parent profiles and testimonials from birthmothers who chose adoption for their babies. Members of the site have [...]

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